The Don’ts of Online Adult Dating

I’m sure you’ve come across many articles regarding tips on how to write your own personal ad, exchange emails with someone who has responded to your ad, conduct a stimulating instant messaging conversation, and the other things that you should do to get a first date.

This time it’s going to be different. I’ll be discussing a few don’ts of online adult dating. These are the things you should never do in picking up girls online, regardless if you had one too many.

In an email exchange, don’t write your autobiography

One of the best ways to turn off a woman is not knowing how to shut up. If you don’t believe this is true, try sending her a long email detailing what you like to do on weekends, and then see what kind of response you’ll get. Nine out of ten women won’t even bother sending a reply. They’ll simply delete your message and move on to the next guy.

What’s the reason behind this? For starters, women generally regard wordy guys as needy. Unfortunately for them, most women love a challenge, and needy guys aren’t challenging. Second, women love to talk, and they want guys to listen.

What to do: Keep all your email messages short ideally, not longer than three sentences. The first two should be your answer to her question, and the last should be for asking her a question. Keep in mind that questions are essential to keep the exchange going, and give her a sense of your thoughtfulness and interest.

Don’t start any kind of sex talk

A lot of women think that guys have nothing but sex on their minds. Although there is some truth to this, you’ll progress further in the game by not talking about or even hinting about sex. Besides, you wouldn’t want to take the chance of offending women with sex talk, especially if you don’t even know them that much yet.

What to do: Simply not doing it.

You might even be surprised by the number of women who actually initiate the sex talk. If this happens, this is a clear green light, although it may be prudent to share your comments that are well thought out.

Don’t lie

It is a well-known fact that a considerable percentage of both men and women lie about themselves online. Whether it’s about their marital status, educational attainment, income, or occupation, this happens a lot when creating their own online adult dating profile.

One should believe that all the lies you’ve said will catch up to you sooner than later. So if you lied to a woman who is interested in you, it’s just a matter of time before she finds out the truth.

What to do: If you think you have qualities that aren’t worth noting, simply “upsell” your other more brag-worthy traits. Focus on the positives instead.

Never lie just to impress a woman. Ever.

Adult Dating Tips: The 3 Rules of Instant Messaging

Instant messaging is easily the best way to initiate contact with someone online, because it lets you be the person you’ve always wanted to be “in person.” What do I mean by this? For example, you’ve always been too timid to approach women in clubs. In using instant messaging, all those obstacles are taken away. It is like a shot of instant courage, giving you a boost of confidence and making you seem suave and cool without any reservations. Plus, it allows you to be spontaneous while conducting real-time conversations, except you have time to think of what you’ll say next. This huge benefit is one of the reasons why it’s so popular.

Fortunately, most online adult dating sites have an instant messaging feature. However, don’t rush into using it just yet. Let me give you some  adult dating  rules to make sure you have a successful instant messaging experience.

•Rule #1: Do Your Homework Before Initiating Contact

Just like writing your personal online ad, your first instant message to a potential partner should be engaging and interesting to immediately hook up and reel in a woman you’re attracted to. And to pull this off, you should know something specific about her.

What to do: Read her personal ad thoroughly before initiating contact, so you can find something that you both have in common. If you find none, find anything of interest, and start asking questions.

•Rule #2: Be Engaging, Funny and Brief; Don’t Be a Blabbermouth

Instant messaging is actually a face-to-face conversation with a person, only you’re doing it through a computer. So if you’re talkative and boring, she’ll drop you like a hot potato.

What to do: Your statements should be short, sweet, direct to the point, and stimulating to keep her interested. Try to imagine yourself in a club having a conversation with her. The sentences that come out of your mouth should be quick and conversational, and this is how exactly how you should “speak” on IM to keep her interested.

•Rule #3: Be Charming, But Subtle

Advertising writers get best results with being subtle, because people build an instinctive resistance when they think a salesperson is trying to sell them something. This is no different in instant messaging. If you hit on a woman with a bunch of pick up lines, she’s likely to get so annoyed that she blocks you from her IM contacts list. So the best way to do this is be subtle.

What to do: Women like to receive compliments, so try doing this through instant messaging too. Say something nice about her avatar picture, and they will surely respond positively.

Getting Back to the Adult Dating Game

When you’re “in the zone” in the adult dating game, you seem to land women faster than you can say, “I’ll call you.” But when you’ve been out of the loop for a while, it’s so tough to get back.

Whatever encouraging words your friends might tell you, it’s not as easy as you think. There are a lot of reasons that can explain the difficult transition, so we’ve gathered tips on the  adult dating  game to clear any unsettling aspects.

• Feel the Pulse

The most important thing to remember when getting your feet wet in getting back to the adult dating scene is to do everything one step at a time. It’s not smart to rush things and try picking up truckloads of women and getting their numbers in an instant.

Just like an aging basketball legend lacing up his shoes, the skills have to be remastered and resharpened. It’s not an impossible task, but it is something you have to work on first.

• Go on a Blind Date

A great way to get back in the adult dating game is to have your pals set you up on a blind date with a gorgeous femme fatale. This choice of woman is ideal for breaking the ice and helping you get your confidence back on track.

But of course, the road to happiness is not without bumps and obstacles. You might get a few bruises and scratches along the way, but these will turn you into a seasoned expert in the long run.

Keep in mind that perfection comes with a price, and in turn requires sacrifice, so don’t expect the first woman you meet to give in to your dating tactics.

• Rules of Play

Girls will be girls, and boys will always be going after them. They will always enjoy being wooed and have guys wrapped around their little finger, regardless of their age. So getting back to the adult dating game whether you’re in your 20s or 40s doesn’t really matter.

Going the right way in the path to seduction is making sure she’s on the same page as you. Just because you’re on the hunt for a partner doesn’t mean women will have the hots for you. Don’t assume she wants what you also want; it’s just not being realistic. Always be smart in making your moves, so always have your thinking cap on. Make sure you don’t make the same mistakes twice.

• Use Your Experience to Your Advantage

Treat all the women that you date right, because you’ll never know when you’ll end up calling her again. In addition, a reserved woman may have outgoing girlfriends that may lead to potential partners. With that being said, all your efforts won’t definitely go unnoticed because your every action will have an equal reaction.